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There is no choice between being kind to others, and being kind to ourselves. It is the same thing.
Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves.
In order to stretch ourselves we do need to experience the vulnerability of not knowing the outcome.
Growth takes place in a person by working at a deep inner level in a sustained atmosphere of silence.
Apology reminds us that each person (including ourselves) deserves to be respected and treated fairly.
We know that ever woman wants to be thin. Our images of womanhood are almost synonymous with thinness.
Every pampered child becomes a hated child.... There is no greater evil than the pampering of children.
If we think of our brains as a map, those early roads are like grooves, tram tracks, easy to fall into.
We tend to feel most comfortable, "most at home", with people whose self esteem level resembles our own.
Eliminate something superfluous from your life. Break a habit. Do something that makes you feel insecure.
The criterion for what is good is based on whether it relieves someone, brings joy, or soothes a distress.
A wanted pregnancy as much as a dreaded pregnancy can play differently than all one's previous imaginings.
I thought of the analyst Winnicott's observation: 'It is a joy to be hidden but disaster not to be found'.
seeing with the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another, and feeling with the heart of another.
Today, 'fat' has become not a description of size but a moral category tainted with criticism and contempt.
Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations.
Some think they are seeking their own soul's truth but the greater Soul is thinking and seeking through them
We accept there's an emotional aspect to life. But we're not very developed in our ways of understanding it.
The truth is often a terrible weapon of aggression. It is possible to lie, and even to murder, with the truth.
Meditation is focused attention and the more we practise focusing our brains the more connections we build up.
If we keep practicing mental skills it is likely we can strengthen neural connections and make new connections.
The Greater Soul moves in only one direction, and that is to bring into union that which has been made separate.
People tend to slip up and go along the old road before they realise what they've done and climb out of it again.
The test of one's behavior pattern is their relationship to society, relationship to work and relationship to sex.
Nobody adopts antisocial behaviour unless they fear that they will fail if they remain on the social side of life.
One of the characteristics of love relationships that flower is a relatively high degree of mutual self-disclosure
If you start from a position of I'm a no-hoper, in a paradoxical kind of way you are not risking being vulnerable.
Every day, it's important to ask and answer these questions: "What's good in my life?" and "What needs to be done?"
If we are not using our brains' capacity for challenge it feels to me as though it atrophies like an unused muscle.
Men of genius are admired, men of wealth are envied, men of power are feared; but only men of character are trusted.
If we do not believe in ourselves- neither in our efficacy nor in our goodness- the universe is a frightening place.
The reputation you have with yourself - your self-esteem - is the single most important factor for a fulfilling life.
The desire for self-esteem without integrity is like the desire for wealth without effort-a longing for the unearned.
Boys, young men, men of all ages are being captivated by the new visual grammar which pushes men to pout and posture.
There is only one reason for an individual to side-step to the useless side : the fear of a defeat on the useful side.
What person, confined in a small room with nothing but a tea-cosy, will not eventually put the tea-cosy on their head?
Most of the time, I regard the judgment of people as a waste of time. I regard the judgment of behavior as imperative.
The widespread belief that Yuppies as a class would perish from Brie-cheese poisoning turned out to be over-optimistic.
Fully to surrender to love can be terrifying. But it is the price life asks in exchange for the possibility of ecstasy.
Our emotional map is laid down mainly in relationship with our earliest caregiver in the first couple of years of life.
It's all really very simple. You don't have to choose between being kind to yourself and others. It's one and the same.
Fat people are so rarely included in visual culture that fat is perceived as a blot on the landscape of sleek and slim.
Consumer society tantalises us. We then try within ourselves to control the needs that are being constantly stimulated.
It would be hard to name a more certain sign of poor self-esteem than the need to perceive some other group as inferior.
There are so many young women who tip over into being a facsimile: they don't really inhabit their lives or their bodies.
The style of life is a unity because it has grown out of the difficulties of early life and out of the striving for a goal.
It seems whether we have a tendency towards being flexible or structured affects how we create, how we parent, how we work.
We cannot say that if a child is badly nourished he will become a criminal. We must see what conclusion the child has drawn.
Self-respecting men and women think about the consequences of their actions-and are willing to take responsibility for them.
Anyone who engages in the practice of psychotherapy confronts every day the devastation wrought by the teachings of religion.