You can reclaim your own narrative.

I haven't had senators advocating for me.

As a feminist, I'll wear whatever I want to.

The word is a label and I don't like it at all.

If Ivanka Trump called, I think good people need to serve.

If I'm strong, I'm not going to apologize for being strong.

I'm really happy for [David Petraeus]. He's exceptionally talented.

You need to accept responsibility for your mistakes. And I've done that.

Yes, I wear a number of hats. But my most important title is mom and wife.

I've moved on with my life and I'm trying to find a path to re-establish my career.

[Fighting for equality for women] that's what my mission has been for the last years.

I'm not in love with David Petraeus. But I think he does present a terrific role model.

It's reducing my entire professional career and background to this one word [mistress].

I think it is important for working moms to recognize that family is the most important.

When I get this kind of support, I feel validated in my decision to stand up for myself.

It really felt like a tidal wave of bias washed over our country and we're still soaked in it.

Even when you've made mistakes in life, you can still contribute and pick up the stuff and move on.

Imagine what Ivanka Trump life has been like? She's been eaten alive by the media. I have empathy for that.

I'm 100 percent serious. I've been fighting for equality for women's issues my entire life, in the military included.

I was incredulous as the bias of the media in terms of the candidates [for presidency]. I was incredulous at the fake news.

I think Ivanka Trump she has this power and powerful women are reaching out to her and she needs to take advantage of that.

I was an academic and I lost my assignment at Harvard. Meanwhile, [David Petraeus] gets invited to Harvard to become a fellow.

I also feel like I've done plenty of wrong things. I'm not innocent here, and I'm certainly not going to be righteous about that.

I don't have the advocates. I don't have a good old boys network. Part of what I want to do is to create a good old girls network.

I had been sort of a rising star - an athlete, a scholar, a leader. My dream was to become a high-level national security adviser.

I was a Ph.D. student at a very reputable university, I was a Harvard research associate at one of the world's premier leadership institutions.

Hopefully women can work with [Ivanka Trump ] to influence up the chain of command. I think it's good for us, for women. It's a glimmer of hope.

I had been working on a second book with [David] Petraeus called Relentless. Obviously that book and the income that it would have generated went away.

We have to raise our young boys to respect women and our young girls to demand respect and to get their values from something other than their physicality.

My peers are all in sensitive jobs - at the C.I.A., the National Security Council, working for the Department of Defense. They can't stand up for me in public.

As an intelligence officer, if you don't have a security clearance, you really don't have a job. My military position was, and has been, frozen, for four years.

When I fell, some people were in such shock that they didn't reach out. They were so mad at me, rather than having compassion for what happened. I lost a lot of friends.

[My kids] were very young at the time and didn't realize what was going on. We told them that mom made a mistake and people want to talk about it in the news so they're outside our house.

I think the public doesn't understand that one of the reasons I haven't stood up for myself is because in order to do that, I have to stoop to a level that further humiliates other people.

I think Donald Trump is the best person for the job. It comes back to redemption campaign rhetoric. They all say that stuff.[Barack] Obama and [Hillary] Clinton said that about each other.

Having a bunch of medals and badges doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve achieved anything, you’ve got to do something beyond yourself to make a difference in life. Seek to be consequential in whatever you do.

I was encouraged, though, because I saw feminist writers - male and female - calling out the bias. I feel like more and more writers are cognizant of the problems and are willing to try to challenge them.

A lot of women were betting on me because there were so few role models and I let them down. They had put me on a pedestal. I maybe enjoyed being in that limelight, but I couldn't reverse what I had done.

I just figured, for the most part, mainstream networks stopped using [mistress word]. Those are small brush fires. The election made me realize we've got forest fires that we collectively need to be focused on.

I grew up in a strong faith-based family. I think I have selected to return to those roots for strength, for my family, for myself and to protect our children and to forgive others and move on and face forward.

While I fully recognize I had made a mistake in the whole relationship, and I'll call it a human error, I hesitate to call myself a victim because I strongly believe one should take responsibility for their actions.

I introduced myself to then-Lieutenant General Petraeus and told him about my research interests; he gave me his card and offered to put me in touch with other researchers and service members working on the same issues.

It's part of the reason I decided to speak out now. This was the tipping point for me. If it's O.K. for [David Petraeus ] to campaign for a job in the administration, then I'm going to campaign to get back out there, too.

I was driven when I was younger. Driven at West Point where it was much more competitive in that women were competing with men on many levels, and I was driven in the military and at Harvard, both competitive environments.

It's the fact that you can reduce my whole life to one word, whatever it is, my entire career, my service to my country, my academic rigor, my courage in going to interview terrorists, and refugee camps, and third-world prisons.

My husband and I each had careers and two babies at home. They just demand everything from you. All the domestic duties fell to me and this resentment builds, as I think happens to a lot of young parents who have competing careers.

A few months into my research, General Petraeus, who was then leading Central Command, invited me to go for a run with him and his team along the Potomac River during one of his visits to Washington. I figured I could interview him while we ran.

The story is framed around [avid Petraeus] resignation. So many headlines that followed talked about his ruined career. They completely ignore the fact that my career was ruined, other peoples' careers were ruined. They focus on him as the victim.

We [in Think Broader.] went through and looked at coverage in different industries and were able to point out to newsrooms that they had these hidden biases. We'd do a review and provide a report card, and provide our suggestion on how to avoid bias.

I want to serve. I love my country. I love service above self and I don't want my talents to go to waste. I also want to send a message to other men and women who've tripped over themselves, or over life: that you need to serve your time in purgatory.

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