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Remember that whatever anyone does, it is an effort to meet a need.
The most important use of NVC may be in developing self-compassion.
It may be most difficult to empathize with those we are closest to.
Empathize, rather than put your "but" in the face of an angry person.
Empathy is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing.
Empathizing with someone's 'no' protects us from taking it personally.
Getting in touch with unmet needs is important to the healing process.
With empathy, I'm fully with them, not full of them — that's sympathy.
Thinking based on who deserves what blocks compassionate communication.
Criticism, analysis, and insults are tragic expressions of unmet needs.
A difficult message to hear is an opportunity to enrich someone's life.
Self-empathy in NVC means checking in with your own feelings and needs.
Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values
What others do may be the stimulus of our feelings, but never the cause.
We are responsible for what we hear other people say and for how we act.
Every message, regardless of form or content, is an expression of a need.
Empathy allows us to re-perceive our world in a new way and move forward.
When we fear punishment, we focus on consequences, not on our own values.
Empathize with silence by listening for the feelings and needs behind it.
With empathy we don't direct, we follow. Don't just do something, be there.
It's really a spiritual practice that I am trying to show as a way of life.
The cause of anger lies in our thinking - in thoughts of blame and judgment.
Your presence is the most precious gift you can give to another human being.
Staying with empathy we allow speakers to touch deeper levels of themselves.
As we learn to speak from the heart we are changing the habits of a lifetime.
NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind.
My anger tells me firstly that there's a need of mine that's not getting met.
Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them?
Always listen to what people need rather than what they are thinking about us.
Never give advice to your children unless you have it in writing and notarized.
Punishment also includes judgmental labeling and the withholding of privileges.
You don't have to be brilliant. It's enough to become progressively less stupid.
When we listen for their feelings and needs, we no longer see people as monsters.
If we don't tell people about our needs, it is much less likely they will be met.
Compliments and praise, for their part, are tragic expressions of fulfilled needs
Focusing on the unmet need (not the judgment) is more likely to get the need met.
What all the basic religions are saying is this: Don't do anything that isn't play.
Behind intimidating messages are simply people appealing to us to meet their needs.
Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way.
When we hear the other person's feelings and needs, we recognize our common humanity.
We can never make anyone do anything against their will without enormous consequences.
We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.
Never hear what a jackal-speaking person thinks, especially what they think about you.
As long as I think I 'should' do it, I'll resist it, even if I want very much to do it.
NVC is a reminder; to focus our attention where we are most likely to get our needs met.
I never have to worry about another person's response, only how I react to what they say.
It's harder to empathize with those who appear to possess more power, status, or resources.
Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs.
When we understand the needs that motivate our own and others behavior, we have no enemies.
The most dangerous of all behaviors may consist of doing things 'because we're supposed to.