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Groveling for connection from someone who compares you to Hitler is not good for a person's self-esteem.
If you feel guilty about not "playing nice," then you could easily alleviate your guilt by playing nice.
[from a reader] Whenever I feel myself resenting someone, I reach out. I have made good friends that way.
Friendships can survive after massive disappointment, but only if both parties are honest with one another.
I believe that everyone deserves love, and sometimes looking outside your own culture is a good way to find it.
When the choice is between a demanding relationship and a vintage pickup truck, I'll choose the truck every time.
Bullies never want to acknowledge their own actions. They want to move through life without reflection or apology.
When you're a single parent, you're often lonely, yet seldom alone. There is no backup ... It is mothering without a net.
Friends tell the truth to one another. Friends don't slam the door to correction or reflection when it is offered with affection.
Love is an irrational force, making humans do all sorts of strange and wonderful things like write poetry and take up the ukulele.
If you miss one moment of enjoying your own life and relationships because you're trying to punish someone else, the bad guy wins.
As an advice columnist, I spend a lot of time reading through psychology journals to ensure that I give the most up-to-date advice.
[from a reader] I hope she learns to look for the joy in life instead of picking out negatives - it will change her life for the better.
One of the benefits of being divorced is that you no longer need to listen to your ex's assessment of the appropriateness of your actions.
You must give and receive love only when doing so doesn't hurt others. That's the ethical path, and you should gain strength from walking it.
We human beings are definitely capable of loving more than one person, but it seems to go more smoothly if we don't love more than one person at a time.
Sometimes toxic people are so resistant to change that therapy does not really help them - but they send everybody else into therapy to find ways to cope.
In life, you don't get instant satisfaction. In life, you get to slog. You work. You grow. You take the long view. You fill the void with self-actualization.
Being inclusive sometimes means being kind toward people whose views are repugnant. But you should only do so if it is physically and emotionally safe for you.
When you are wondering whether to say something negative about someone - even if it is true - the best rule to follow is, "I'll think about doing this tomorrow."
You should not be hovering in the background, inflating the drama. Simply envelop him in love and affection and let him know that you will support his efforts, whatever they are.
If you turn the heat down on the relationship, she will soften, the tension will lessen, and she will eventually inch closer to you. Don't go in for the hug until you achieve a handshake.
This is a tough situation. But it is what it is, and time has an amazing way of knitting together solutions as long as everybody stays calm and resolves to be as gentle and patient as possible.
Your job in life is to look after yourself and to find ways to get what you need - emotionally and otherwise - so that you live your best possible life, without being mired in anger and hurt over the past.
Couples who have been together for a long time say the key to staying together is to work as a team toward the greater good, tolerating some tough (even tragic) times to grow together and work toward a mature kind of union.
One downside of being an optimist is that optimistic people tend to forget yesterday's trauma in the belief that everything will turn out well. This can keep people in bad relationships because they genuinely believe that things will always improve.
In the name of friendship you should make sure your door is always open to listen. Don't feel you need to provide unsolicited possible solutions, answers or even ideas. Listening without judgment and offering assistance when asked should be enough. That's friendship's high calling.